04.13.09
Oh how about love.
You know, I was talking to my friend the other day. I was just relating how marriage is so scary nowadays. Mana-mana we hear of stories of cheating spouses. And also how love is all based on superficial factors. It’s just very scary ah seriously. So my friend was saying, apa nak takut, if we are good spouses ourselves, then we will be able to get good spouses mah.
Yes, that’s true. But..
What if, God wants to test this good person through his marriage? Say, he is a good husband and a fillial servant of Allah, but his wife cheats on him. Bukan takde sejarah pun. Tengok je kisah Nabi Luuth, Nabi Nuh.. They all had wives who were the complete opposite of them.
So, how, I ask you? Scary right? Tsk tsk.
A pretty, pretty friend of mine who was recently engaged, once told me of her mother’s advice. It was something like,
You must be good to your mother-in-law. Because you see, the love of a husband for wife can be temporaral. So to make it last, you must tie it to something more lasting, which is the love of a son for his mother. If you’re good to his mother, you’ll make him very happy and he’ll end up loving you more.
If I’m not mistaken, gitu ah argument dia. Sorry ye kalau salah tapi macam betul ah. Heh.
But yes, makes sense, doesn’t it? A loving mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Gi dengar syarahan same2, shopping same2.. Bring it on. *main2 kening*
There was another friend who argued differently. He said, the only way to have a lasting marriage is to base the love for something ETERNAL. Which is, sebagaimana yang kite semua tau, GOD la. So he was saying, if he’s going to married, he will make sure that the reason he gets married is for God and God alone. Baru boleh cakap “Ana uhibbuki fillah” (I love you for the sake of Allah).
Nice. BUT..
When he said that, several things crossed my mind. Firstly, if the marriage is strictly for God, then, when do I as an individual comes in? I mean, kalau macam tu, any fatimah aminah or zainab can be the wife lah. Then what’s so special about me then? Then, if you follow this line of argument, you normally would say that when one marries someone for God, it kinda mean that you’re marrying the person for her religiosity. Ok, that’s nice la, but then surely I am not the most religious of all women. So what happens when there’s someone more religious than I am? Jeng jeng jeng. *kerut2 kening*
Secondly (and I am asking this with utmost sincerity and not a tinge of sarcasm hokey), HOW do you love someone STRICTLY for Allah? Like, really, HOW? Even when you love Rasulullah, it’s because of the stories we heard about him kan. Perjuangannya, kepimpinannya, his greatness as a family man.. You know what I mean? Jadi macam mana? I mean, even if you love someone for his religiosity, other factors will also come in ape. Like, for example.
“oh he’s so religious and very caring towards his ikhwah”
“oh he’s so religious and he has a certain charm when conveying his da’wah”
“oh he’s so religious and he is a good son“
You get what I mean taak. Haih.
Ok, some people might argue that loving someone for Allah is like the love a Muslim has for his brother. Like, how, say, somehow we have this strong feeling towards our ikhwah in palestine ke kan? Ok, maybe that, but to make someone your LIFE PARTNER? Is that ALL?
Do share with me if any of you guys have figured out, what’s loving for Allah is like, exactly. Boleh ehk? ;)
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So, while we’re on the topic kan. I just want to share with you guys this very interesting book (which I shouldve done so waay back ah. But remember my MIA period from the blog? Ah, that’s why. Heh). So basically, this book is like a guidebook to a happy marriage like that la. But wait, before you dismiss this off as yet another typical, boring panduan perkahwinan.. I must say that I had the same preconception as well.. BEFORE reading the book, that is. I mean, ok, I admit, I ACTUALLY LIKE to read those boring panduans ok. Sampai da macam, able to predict the contents of a book before reading it. Sebab basically, macam same ah. But when I read this, I thought the author had lots of original ideas. And the stories yang she selitkan in between, I don’t know eh, I just find them enlightening, really:)
One of the most touching parts of the book kan, is this love letter written by a husband to his wife. Like, the wife did some mistakes ah, was negligent or something, and instead of scolding her or buat perangai, he WROTE HER A LOVE LETTER INSTEAD. How sweet kan! Here’s an excerpt of it:
“Isteriku yang tercinta, aku tidak menulis surat ini kecuali kerana aku menyintaimu. Engkau telah rela menjadikan ku sebagai suami dan aku telah menghibahkan (menghadiahkan) hidupku untukmu. Aku mengatakan kepada diriku, inilah seorang ibu dan isteri, inilah kasih sayang dan ketenangan, inilah hembusan angin Syurga yang ada di rumah ku, maka aku mengajak mu dan kita sama-sama menaiki perahu yang menuju ke pelabuhan bahagia di sisi Tuhan Yang Maha Pengasih. Tetapi, tiba-tiba aku mendapatkan badai di jalan yang kita lalui dan angin yang berhembus. Jika kita berdua tidak berhati-hati, maka kita akan kehilangan kendali perahu dan kehilangan arah. Aku mengatakan kepada diriku sendiri, “Tidak! Aku tidak akan meninggalkan perahu tenggelam, maka aku ambil pena dan kertas, dan aku tulis surat teguran. Teguran dari seorang kekasih kepada kekasihnya….”.
Amacam! Nice kan? *main2 kening dengan kuat sekali* That’s why this book is different. Besides the numerous advices and tips on how to handle different scenarios, these kind of things are included as well. And I like how the author included little, little details that we tend to overlook and take for granted. :)
So really, other than the language used (tah sape tah pengalih bahasa dia.), the content is highly recommendable. Bab bahasa tu, sudahlah, marilah kita saling memaafi( HAHA:p). Yang penting tu CONTENT nya ye CONTENT nye. :p
So to those yang belum kahwin tapi nak kahwin, or yang kenal orang2 yang nak dekat kahwin or dah kahwin, sile lah.. Do visit the muslim bookstores and look for this book. Belek2 sket, and then decide on it. InsyaAllah tak rugi ;)
So it’s priced at $15, and besides getting it from Darul Andalus, Muslimedia and other bookstores, you can also get this book (and other books from the same company) at http://www.alfawzaan.com/.
Sokonglah industri buku-buku agama tempatan :p
Anonymous said,
April 13, 2009 at 4:10 pm
salam sis. i just happened to come across ur blog.
with regards to ur friend who said getting married for the sake of Allah s.w.t, i think it would more mean marrying someone who would be able to remind you of Allah s.w.t. guiding you to be a better Muslimah so that it will lead to paradise.
besides getting married because of your religion would mean that you would then ensure that your children would be raised as good and proper Muslims. in this type of world we are living in, it’s better to ensure that the children would have proper Islamic upbringing.
love is something that is superficial. yes u need love to live with that person but after some time, what happens if the love fizzles away? then what is that common ground that you would have with your spouse.
thus, that’s why religion should be the basis of marriage cos only with the faith in your religion would it ensure a good marriage
in other words the love should bloom from the common basis of the religion.
i hope it helps cos right now i’m not really thinking quite properly
it’s intertwine dear.
ummsofiyyah said,
April 13, 2009 at 4:14 pm
wsalam ! :)
Ah yes, that makes great sense. But like you said, religion should be the common basis for this love kan.. That I don’t deny, definitely. But beyond this common basis? Mesti like ade other specific reasons why in the end you choose to end up with A, and not B, isn’t it? Hehe. Ok ok i shall not bother you with questions. But great thanks for sharing your insights ! jazaakillah:)
Anonymous said,
April 13, 2009 at 5:56 pm
maybe u can rely on gut instincts or how u are attracted to A more than B. i was in that situation before in choosing a or b. but somehow i chose the guy whose agamanya not that good if u compare to the other person. but somehow i had faith that he would improve himself more and he is able to lead me with regards to religious matters. that is still a mystery to me till now, why i chose this person instead of the other but somehow maybe it also boils down to chemistry. i had a feeling in my heart that the person i chose was the right guy and i’m still leaving it up to Allah s.w.t till now.
so ya, i’m still figuring out and if i do make the wrong choice, i’ll let you know in the future
Abu Raiyan said,
April 13, 2009 at 10:35 pm
Salam
Hehehe! :D
Cm xley stop gelak.
Hm sekadar berkongsi..selama ni pun ku faham dari makna Cinta kerana Allah swt tu mcm apa yg hamba Allah anonymous kate. Saling bantu & ingatkan pada perkara ketaatan.
Cume nk tambah skit, pd aku tak kira sesama jenis atau berlawanan, sbb Rasul dan Sahabat2 tu dikatakan org2 yg paling kuat kecintaan sesama mereka.
Dan..pd aku tak perlu nak pening2 camne cara bercinta kerana Allah swt.. Cara terbaik, jage niat setiap kali nk buat suatu perkara. Niat lillah.
Beyond è common basis (religion) for love? Yg sejuk di mata, penawar di hati hehe :p . Islam agama fitrah.
Wallahu a’lam
farhanamunshi said,
April 14, 2009 at 12:43 am
Salam Hannah! =)
firstly, can translate the book for me? =D i know you did some translating work last time! so ur more than capable.. and you are also very nice. very very very very very nice! =) PLEASE? de last malay book i read in full was 7 yrs ago.. and that was Rakyat Yg Baik. please? i will wiggle my thick eyebrows with you… promise!
in any case.. haha ana got comment!
i heard this lecture by this sheikh once. he was telling us abt one incident where his daughter askd him, Daddy, if you love Allah with all your heart, absolutely and truly, then where is Mummy and me in your heart? he said, my love for your mummy and for you is a manifestation of my love for Allah.
i think tt sums up everything so nicely! its like a concept map. you place love for Allah riiiight on top. den everything branches from it. because you love Allah, you do what He says, and amgst all de things He says, is being kind and loving and forgiving to the people around, and also abt how to love your family and spouse. so you follow these guidelines only to please Allah. you love ur wife only to please Allah.
and in tt case, ur right. there IS no individual in this scene. there shld not be. the entire existance is only for Allah. there shld be no you, as an individual. everythng completely for and about Allah. we shldnt want our husbands to love us for ourselves, to treat us as if we deserve to be special.. bc we are all flawed. if he treats us well, alhamdullillah, and let his actions not be for us, but for Allah.
haha.. k. =P
last thing. how do we choose. simple. we dont. Allah chose alr for us. jodoh was set before we were born. the most alim of men can be set with the most not alim of women, and he cannot do anything abt it. seriously, we jus be good for Allah, dun think abt choosing. tawakal.. keep doa-ing that you be in a marraige that would please Allah the most, be it a good marraige or a bad one. it doesnt matter. bc we all dun matter. our happiness and state in this world doesnt matter. Allah matters. for all you know bad marraiges can be in reality good for you bc it tests your iman.. you learn patience, when always feel deep hurt in tihs world, you will turn to Allah more and its easier for you to denounce love of this world, including love of bad spouses.. and you will get closer to Allah. so what if ur husband is crap. tt is a mercy from Allah for you, to remind you to confide in HIM s.w.t. and to only seek love and solace in HIM. so dun worry abt whether or not u will have a good marraige. jus worry how you will react in the marriage you are given, and if ur behavior will please Allah or not.
haha wa Allahu Alam. =)
ummsofiyyah said,
April 14, 2009 at 8:22 am
Salam anonymous sis,
aww. I hope you’ve made the right choice too. Ameen, insyaAllah :) Thanks for sharing ya:)
ummsofiyyah said,
April 14, 2009 at 8:25 am
Ya aba raiyan.
ape kau gelak2. aku tau asal. sebab kau pun ekceli sukebaca buku2 cm tu kan? ku maseh ingat lagi time skola when you hid this particular book from me in the library:p Sampai sekarang aku masih tak paham asal kau INSISTED habes nak baca buku tu:p
Eh tapi aku suke your point abt Islam as agama fitrah. Macam tibe2 like ‘ting!’ gitu. hehe! :)
Syukran ya aba raiyan. Jaga diri jaga iman :)
ummsofiyyah said,
April 14, 2009 at 9:10 am
Wah ana! A blog post by itself ehh :p
1) ME TRANSLATING IT TO ENGLISH?? hurhur. You know what ana, this was the book I translated from indonesian lang to Malay ahh. and it turned out to be yucky ok. yucky. :p i think im like hopeless in translating la seriously. ask mardhiyah to do it ok:p
2) Ok, I soo agree with your part on the concept map concept (hehe). Allah MUST be on the top of the list, and everything else is a manifestation towards that One Love. yes! ana agrees with ana! :p
3) And I agree with you on the marriage part ah. The what if your husband is crap part. hehe. I guess there’s always the blessing in disguise kan. And you’re absolutely right, just concentrate on being the best person and prays for the ebst, and leave everything to Allah! Yes! ana agrees with ana again:p
4) Ok, so you’re saying there IS no individuality in the picture kan.. that one i beg to differ lor:p come, come. hear my argument:p
a) like what was said by abu raiyan, islam is agama fitrah (ana, you know what that means right! :p). And I thought that makes perfect sense, and it links everything together. You see, dalam the hadeeth on how to pick a wife, that four factors. Yes, the emphasis is definitely on her religion. And the hadeeth about, should there come a guy who proposes to your daughter and he is a man whose religion you approve of, then marry your daughter off to him. So yes , there has been tremendous emphasis on marrying someone for his/her religion in Islam.
However, there are also hadeeths that mentioned of other factors in considering marriage. Like, for example, the hadeeth that Rasulullah personally told this sahabat to look at the woman he was planning to marry so that “it will cause love between the two of you” (or something like that).
And that’s the thing you see. It is of human nature to like or love someone due to OTHER factors as well. And Islam, although it restricts human nature, it does not prevent it from occuring altogether. That’s why marriage is allowed in the first place. There are even hadeeths which talk about the intimate details of marriage even.
My point? Emphasise on religion, but I’m sure Islam allows room for individuality to come in still. heeeh:)
b) a friend shared this thing with me la (aft reading my blog post). he said smething like, when you plant this niyyah to love someone for Allah right.. and then God will let you meet The One.. And you love her for Allah right? then, he added, in the process of realising how each other is flawed and imperfect, comes the drive to spur each other on to strive towards the perfection for Allah. And he believes that, it is through this process that God will make this partner seems perfect in your eyes. That’s when individuality comes in. you love your partner as an INDIVIDUAL despite her flaws.
Like how we love Rasulullah saw for example. Because of his chivalry, compassion – he just seems so perfect. But what made us see this perfection in him? Because we loved him for Allah, and thus Allah made him seem perfect to us.
I think that really makes sense. You know this whole idea of, if you love someone even her fart smells nice? (sorry ah, bad metaphor, but popular mah! hehe). I think it ironically, it applies in this case too, somehow. Like, because you love your husband (for Allah), everything about him seems perfect. Even his little imperfections make him perfect for you :p:p:p
Maybe, like how perfect Khadijah is to Rasulullah saw as well? :)
In conclusion (hurhur), I admire the pursuit for 100% loving for Allah and NOTHING else. But, maybe just a little something to share and remind myself in particular, Islam IS agama fitrah. it does NOT deny humans of their natural tendencies that God Himself has created for men, but its perfection seeks to regulate these tendencies such that they become beneficial and not detrimental to mankind.
Wallahu a’lam.
<3
farhanamunshi said,
April 14, 2009 at 4:10 pm
hahaha! omg. blog posts withing blog post! omg ur back to blogging with a vengence! hehehehe..
AND
ana agrees with (h)anna(h)! haha de 100% only for Allah thing is the ideal case which very few can even dream of achieving, but we strive for it nonetheless. =) putting the individual idea in the way u did (i didnt read the comment in malay.. when my mind feels sharp, and ready to focus, i will read the malay comment.. eh like training up to read de book!)
yeap, religion number one criteria! =) but i really agree with what ur friend says. in wanting a good spouse, de usaha on ur part is to be a person who wld make a good spouse urself! spend more time looking inward, rather than outward.. for there is a tree in jannah that is planted for he who’s thoughts are more occupied with his own short-comings than the short comings of others.
eh. why i nvr see you in sch? =( no apex, i dun see you. uve been hiding from me riiiight?
redtide said,
April 14, 2009 at 8:51 pm
Salaam ‘alaik..
Hm, just to share.. here’s some excerpts of advice that we can ponder on about love and marriage..
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“Dalam soal berumah tangga, janganlah terlalu memilih dan hanya mencari yang paling sempurna. Jika kita mahu yang paling sempurna, maka nanti apabila kita membuat keputusan untuk menerima seseorang, kita menganggapnya sebagai seorang yang sempurna. Jika rumah tangga dibina atas fikiran seperti itu, kita tidak expect sebarang kekurangan. Maka selepas berumah tangga, hanya kekurangan isteri sahajalah yang sering terlihat di mata, kerana kita menjangkakan kesempurnaan. Terimalah seseorang, seadanya. Kebaikannya disyukuri, kekurangannya diredhai”
“perkahwinan sebenarnya menggabungjalinkan antara cinta, kasih sayang, tanggungjawab dan peranan. Ada hari air pasang, cinta memainkan peranan. Ada hari air surut, maka tanggungjawab dan kematangan pula mengambil tugas.”
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“Aik macam pernah dengar kata-kata di atas.. tapi di mana yah?” some might think. They are excerpts from a couple of articles at saifulislam.com.
Apart from choosing someone for their piety, for me, there needs to be other factors as well in choosing our lifetime partners. I feel, it’s up to the individual. Each has his/her own needs and aspirations. One’s choice in their future partners will be based on their perspective towards life. When they find someone who shares similar goals and outlook towards life, that person will be their likely choice.
The basics for me are like what Abu Raiyan said, “yang sejuk di mata dan penawar di hati.” (“,) That’s because I’ll live with this person for the rest of my life and at least some form of attraction and chemistry is a must for me. To be more convinced after that, that’s where istikharah prayers come in for both parties before proceeding further.
I agree with what ‘Anonymous’ and ‘Abu Raiyan’ suggested about loving someone for the sake of Allah. It is about loving him/her for their piousness and effort towards being a good Muslim knowing that both will strive for the success of the marriage based on Islamic values, constantly reminding and guiding each other towards goodness and doing their best to refrain from anything that’s bad. With this as the basis in the marriage, along with mutual trust, patience, understanding, open communication (both being an open book to each other), respecting each other’s needs/aspirations/time and also accepting each other for who they are (not how you want him to be), this will help towards the success of the marriage, insya Allah.
Things will not be perfect in a sense that every single day will be all lovely and romantic even if we strive for this. Every situation in this life will be forever filled with trials. There will be good times and tough times. If both can understand this, then they’ll be patient and help each other to work things out whenever things turn out bad. It definitely needs a lot patience and effort.
And lastly, about Islam and the natural tendencies of humans, mutual expressions of love not only physically, but also emotionally, between married couples are definitely a must for the bonds of marriage to remain strong.
For example, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to express his love toward his wives by word and deed. It is reported that `Amr ibn Al-`Aas (may Allah be pleased with him) asked the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) saying, “O Allah’s Messenger, whom do you love most, after Allah Almighty?” He (peace and blessings be upon him) replied, “`A’ishah.” `Amr ibn Al-`Aas then said, “And from among the men?” The Prophet answered, “Her father (Abu Bakr).” This hadith shows how great the Prophet’s love was for `A’ishah, and this love was well-known among his Companions.
`A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said, “It would happen that Allah’s Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) would take a utensil containing food, give it to me while I was having my menstrual period, and adjure me to eat from it. Then he would take the vessel being keen to put his mouth on the same place I put my mouth on.” Of course, the Prophet did this as a kind of compliment and to let his wife feel his affection. `A’ishah also swore that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to do the same when drinking water. She would drink then he would take the utensil and drink from it, putting his mouth where she had put hers.
By doing such things, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) intended to guide his nation as to how the relation between the spouses should be, how affection and mercy can last between them, and how the husband can talk gently and play with his wife.(www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503548922)
Thus, I agree with your last statement in your comment about Islam and the natural tendencies of humans. (“,)
The suggestions above are a mix from my own thoughts and what i’ve gathered after reading a few articles on this topic. Just as a reminder for myself first and foremost and also for others.
And Allah Almighty knows best.
Abu Raiyan said,
April 14, 2009 at 10:44 pm
:D ko msh ingt? Ku rase buku tu da ke mane da pn.
Yup ku mmg suke..tp last ku pegang 3 thn lalu.
Pd aku yg plg best yg related ngan Nabi shollallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam & sahabat2,cm lbh uumph!hehe.lebih2 lg ade ahadith shohiha,lbh concrete utk dijadikn panduan ;)
Mase bookfair tuari ku bli “The Prophet Muhammad: The Best of All Husbands”
:)
fana said,
April 15, 2009 at 7:33 am
kudos to ana(s)! i think can open hal ehwal rumahtangga forum already. :p
come, this other ana just wants to say something in response to what first ana has mentioned:
“how do we choose. simple. we dont. Allah chose alr for us. jodoh was set before we were born. the most alim of men can be set with the most not alim of women, and he cannot do anything abt it. seriously, we jus be good for Allah, dun think abt choosing. tawakal..”
i think it’s pretty fatalistic this sort of view, don’t you think? yes of course, Allah has preordained these things for us and yes, Allah sets jodohs in a myriad of ways, whether it seems fair or unfair, like you mentioned, the most alim of men with the not most alim of women…but i don’t think Allah’s predestination mean no human free will on our part and that we ABSOLUTELY CANNOT do anything to alter situations. like you said, don’t think about choosing kan? i suppose it’s not too right an approach because tawakal only comes in after we’ve really tried our bestest to look for the bestest that is compatible with us. after trying, then we say, “tawakalna ala Allah”. in this case, whether or not that guy we gilerkan will really become our husbands, is all up to Allah for we know we’ve tried our bestest to search for THE ONE and doa that we’ll be together. choosing i believe is an EFFORT which i think is ultimately important in our lives as muslims. if you search, choose and doa hard and sincerely, i suppose Allah Al-’Alim, As-Sami’ and the Ar-Rahman can always alter things according to your wants? macam kun faya kun gitu.
“bc we all dun matter. our happiness and state in this world doesnt matter. Allah matters.”
if i say, because for me Allah matters, and therefore i matter, my future happiness and state in this world matter? do you think that’s unruly? i might be taking it wrongly but, it seems to suggest that dunia doesn’t at all matter. if i feel that Allah matters most, then, i should in all circumstances, seek the best out of this world and the hereafter as what Allah commands of us, kan? if i just let it be, and don’t try to choose and find the bestest i can possibly find, what about its ramifications on my future generations, the outlook of my family? can i really ascertain that by then, i will be able to raise a family of mawaddah, sakinah and so on? to me, i’m not confident la kan, what with the many-many anasirs going around in this world today. yes, again, you may say, even if my husband and i try so hard to nurture our kids to have religious piety, it still is in Allah’s hands how they turn out to be. BUT, what is crucial here is we TRY.
so for me, my take is, i will try my very very best to choose and search for the one i think is right for me, and perfect for me even with his imperfections so that i can optimise my chances of grooming the best possible family i can in this world that will insyaAllah, also bring benefits for the hereafter because definitely Allah matters most. :)
“For his sake there are angels following one another, before him and behind him, who guard him by Allah’s commandment; surely Allah does not change the condition of a people until they change their own condition; and when Allah intends evil to a people, there is no averting it, and besides Him they have no protector.” -Surah Ar-Rad (13:11)
ummsofiyyah said,
April 16, 2009 at 5:16 am
Redtide.
Salaam! I agree. And thank you again for the quote from saifulislam (you’re officially one of his biggest fans ok. hehe).
And anw, i didn’t approve of your second comment. You know why;)
ummsofiyyah said,
April 16, 2009 at 5:17 am
Ya aba raiyan,
tapi buku2 gini never fail to selitkan hadeeth n ayat2 quran apee. especially this book. serious.
ohhhh THAT bookfair?? abeh buku tu in english ke arabic? kalau english ku nak pinjam eh! :)))
ummsofiyyah said,
April 16, 2009 at 5:18 am
Ya hayaatii!
Thank you ANA (the third one in this comment box!:p ) for the brilliant comment:p jazaakillah! :):)
fana said,
April 16, 2009 at 7:46 am
“The Prophet Muhammad: The Best of All Husbands”.
haiz. jantung terkecut sekejap.
hannah, all your fault seh! i posted another zawjati video on my blog with hadiths about Nabi s.a.w and Khadijah r.a! impact die lagi..haiyamah!!
Abu Raiyan said,
April 16, 2009 at 11:14 am
Hehe wah wah..sume yg kasi komen ni sume masya Allah.
Moga Allah permudahkn urusan menuju alam rumahtangga & melayarinya dgn keberkatan dariNya..amin.. :)
I shall stop giving comment regarding this topic..tkt2 terlebih melamun :p
Lah bdk kck ni.. ku x ckp pn buku yg ko bace tu xde dalil ke ape.ku ckp psl kebykn buku yg dulu aku pegang.
Yup in english la dora! Haiya..tp kn lau in arabic lbh cm sedap bace sbb balaghahnya tinggi.
Ok,jage diri sume! :D waffaqakumullah jami’an.
ummsofiyyah said,
April 16, 2009 at 5:32 pm
fana,
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAH. I LOOOVE THAT SONG TOO! :D
ummsofiyyah said,
April 16, 2009 at 5:35 pm
IN ENGLISH? k aku nak pinjam k k k k. :)
ye la BAD. tau la kau da fasih. tkyah nak jeles kan org :p
wa iyyaaak!:)
Khairiyah said,
April 17, 2009 at 12:43 pm
Salaam sis!
Came across your blog.. and I so can relate to it! Hehe.. A girlfriends was discussing the same topic.. and her conclusion is simply, ‘coz Allah wants it to be so =)
ummsofiyyah said,
April 17, 2009 at 4:47 pm
Wsalam.
helo there! glad u’re able to do so. thanks for visiting. fi hifzillah!:)
farhanamunshi said,
April 22, 2009 at 3:31 am
=) thanks hannah and fana for ur insight =) im learning more from this one post and the comments that come after than from my engin notes =S haiyoh.. the wonderful world of tiny things. hehehehe..
zimmie said,
April 27, 2009 at 6:40 pm
Thanks Hannah for triggering thinking and thoughts.
Alhamdulillah~ (=
ummsofiyyah said,
April 27, 2009 at 6:42 pm
Zimmiieeeeeeee. Alhamdulillah:) eh, do get bck to me if uve heard abt that thg i told u abt over the fon k. tata!:)
nashaislem said,
May 3, 2009 at 1:30 am
eh another awesome post. aku pon takot eh hannah :(
tapi…all the comments were awesome..i feel comforted. haha sometimes we worry too much eh. should just let God do His work la.
ummsofiyyah said,
May 3, 2009 at 3:30 am
betul2.
must worry about things yg nearer within our reach dulu kan belot.
LIKE ABOUT THIS COMING EXCHANGE TRIP TO JORDAN KAAAAN.
*soreeeeeeeeeeee*