11.14.08
Pelik tapi benar.
I am weird. Really I am. I loveee longans and lychees – the canned ones that is. Yang peliknya, I cannot stand the fresh ones. I hate the smell and I won’t ever touch them. Apa lagi to eat them. I just can’t stand it, and I don’t know why.
I can’t eat bananas too. The fresh ones. Macam boleh muntah kalau paksa. But I love my mum’s jemput2 pisang, I like pengat pisang, and also goreng pisang (or is it pisang goreng?).
Wait. There’s more. I don’t really eat fish. I can eat it, but it really depends on the way it is being cooked and what type of fish it is. Why? I can’t really stand the fishy smell. But get this, I super love tuna. And I won’t eat epok2 unless it’s SARDINES.
Laugh people, laugh.
Now, I think my weirdness has extended to not just food, but also my preference for a soulmate as well. I want him to be jealous. And I know that what constitutes jealousy is subjective, but whatever your standard is, you can be assured that what I mean by jealousy is like SUPER JEALOUS.
Yes, SUPER DUPER JEALOUS. Kalau sampai tahap possessive pun tak ape. HEEH.
Why, you might ask. You see, I am a terribly jealous person as well. I cannot imagine my husband having lunch with a female friend – just the two of them. Or talking on the phone for hours to just talk about, well, nothing but everything.
(:
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“Kalau aku melihat seorang laki-laki bersama isteriku..,” kata Sa’ad bin ‘Ubadah berandai-andai. “Tentu akan ku pukul dengan pedang sehingga ia tak bisa mengeluarkan suara lagi!”
(Brutal nye, some might say. Tapi ape Nabi s.a.w kata?)
Sabdanya: “Apakah kalian heran terhadap perkataan Sa’ad? Demi Allah, aku lebih cemburu daripada dia, DAN ALLAH LEBIH CEMBURU DARIPADAKU!” (Al-Bukhari dan Muslim).
Yeah bebeh. I liiike very. Tapi ade orang kata saya ni gile sikit suke yang macam tu. Orang kata, memanglah perlu ade jealous2 tapi takkan sampai macam tuh. Kalau dorang nak ade dinner berdua-duaan dekat some restaurant pun takpelah. Kan dorang kawan, baru balek dari tempat yang sama. Normal je tu. Apa yang nak dikecohkan sangat. Hmmm. Kalau dia ‘matair’ saya, maybe lah tak jealous sangat. Tapi kalau dialah SUAMI ataupun yang saya yakin jadi BAKAL suami saya.. tanaaaaaaaaaaaak! (so cnnt ah ade matae. jealous sangat. huwahuwahuwa).
KENAPA, UMM SOFIYYAH, KENAPA???
Sebab saya teringat satu hadeeth ni. Saya selalu baca hadeeth tu. Tapi saya tak past kesahihan hadeeth tu. Ape pun, ianya berbunyi lebih kurang begini:
isteri yang menemani suaminya makan, memegang mesra tangannya dan merenung dengan penuh kasih ke matanya..
pastu adelah reward dia. tapi dah tak ingat ape. heh -_-”
Soo.. So I can’t imagine if he eats with another woman, just the two of them, then they talked to each other, occasionally, accidentally holding each other’s gaze.. laughing at each other’s joke.. staying a minute too long after lunch and stuffs.. ehem. There’s a wife for him to tease, to joke with, to hold his gaze and let it linger lovingly. So tak payah buat dekat orang lain k?
And get this, I do not, at all, think it’s ok for a MARRIED MAN to engage in ’naughty’ teasings or just speaking in a FLIRTATIOUS manner, walaupun subtly. REALLY, IT IS NOT NOT OK.
Nabi kata, apa yang ada wanita lain, ada juga pada isterimu.. jadi pulanglah dan dapatkanlah ia.. :) (Of course, we know that obviously women are NOT the same. But think about the psychological side to this.. Hmm)
So men. Nanti dah kahwin don’t whine and go tsk-tsk and keep comparing your wife with other women hokey? :)
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But of course, there are unreasonable reasons to be jealous as well. That I must remind myself to avoide. Say he’s out for a da’wah purpose, or business matters, or just to have a ‘lepak session’ with his guy friends.. Why should I be jealous of that kan? :)
“Sesungguhnya ada di antara cemburu yang disukai Allah, dan ada pula cemburu yang dibenci Allah.” (HR Ahmad, Abu Dawud and An-Nasa’i).
So yes, one should be jealous and all, but one should understand we need not to be together EVERY SINGLE BREATHING MOMENT. We do need our space once a while. Besides, absence makes the heart fonder, they say :)
But really, I think we can all do with a little more jealousy. Understand your rights, understand this EXCLUSIVE right that is for YOU and YOU, as a wife and a husband. That’s why you paid her mahar, that’s why you took the oath from her wali, that’s why you provide her with what she needs and protect her with all your might.. and you, that’s why you agreed to be his lawful wedded wife, that’s why you agreed to be the mother to his children, that’s why you gave him your loyalty. :)
Memang zaman mungkin berubah, dan interaction between a man and a woman semakin lama semakin longgar. Yes, sometimes we need to be understanding and not make things difficult. But selagi mana yang boleh, why not avoide it, betul ke? :)
Some might argue, kalau hidup ni penuh dengan jealousy then that means we will be living without any peace ah. Asal suami jauh je, hati gelisah. Asal isteri jauh je, hati tak tenang. In doubt all the time. Gitu ke?
Entah ye. But to me, terbalik pulak. You see, that’s why I want a jealous husband. Why? Ok. I’m jealous, betul? Jadi I have specific things in mind which I know I do not want him to do with other women. And knowing that HE is jealous as well, so I know what are the things he will not want ME to be doing with another man. Jadi? Jadi it works both ways. You don’t do things which will make me jealous, and I won’t too. And if that’s the case, even when you’re apart, you know your partner akan jaga diri dia baik2. Hati pun jadi tenang. So takde rase gelisah, cume rindu.sayang.rindu.sayang.rindu.sayang. LOL. ok ok you get the drift. :)
So I PERSONALLY think, being jealous, secara halal, can facilitate masing2 untuk menjaga diri LILLAAHI TA’ALA.. and then for each other:)
And of course, it has to be mutual:)
Ingat, Nabi saw said, whatever another woman has, your wife has it too. :) (Ya Rijaal.. Repeat this mantra to self every night ok? Hahahaha.)
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Coz life is not all the time in colours.
But black and white can be pretty cool too:)
Ibnu Hajar said,
November 14, 2008 at 6:32 pm
Assalamualaikum…
Yeah bebeh?hehe
Syukran for posting this entry :)
Abu Raiyan said,
November 14, 2008 at 7:04 pm
Salam..
Hehe cik hannah,cik hannah..kau ni kan..hmm..xpe la.
bagus2..ku rase, suami kau x perlu nk pesan “jage diri baik2 ye syg..” lau de nk gi keje ke overseas bape ari ke hehehe.
Barakallahu feek! :)
asr said,
November 14, 2008 at 7:25 pm
hannah, are you seriously attached? Your posts sem to indicate that you are in need of a serious man as apartner? hehe …
eusof said,
November 14, 2008 at 11:12 pm
=)
like coming to your blog.
lol.
ummsofiyyah said,
November 15, 2008 at 6:42 am
Ibn Hajar.
‘Afwan. :)
ummsofiyyah said,
November 15, 2008 at 6:45 am
Asr,
Ah? I’m not attached. In need of a serious man? Lol. Yes, but not now.
THIS post was inspired by an msn conversation. We were talking about how nowadays pergaulan antara lelaki and perempuan are just so longgar, and even someone’s so-called ‘boyfriend’ or ‘girlfriend’ can be so very the friendly with a member of the opposite sex. hence this post. :)
ummsofiyyah said,
November 15, 2008 at 6:46 am
eusof,
like coming to my blog is what? pelik tapi benar? :s
ummsofiyyah said,
November 15, 2008 at 6:47 am
wsalam.
abu raiyan.
apeee.
yelah tu.
fi hifzillah.
:)
deeya said,
November 15, 2008 at 7:13 am
salam hannah…
i’m so totally agree with u…
i’m super duper jealous and possessive type too, and so my other half will have to be one too…haha…
ummsofiyyah said,
November 15, 2008 at 7:39 am
wsalam.
rad! lamanye tak jumpe. rindu seh kat awak:D korang pun tengah exams kan? bittaufiiq k:)
ahahahaha. you are too? that’s cool! hehehe. *winks2*
the cutest :P said,
November 15, 2008 at 8:56 am
im smiling all the way baca ni post. jadi… u jealous tk dgn tunang u? nnt i nk kawen dgn org lain tau.. u ingt tu… :P:P
eh mana si nuuun tk komen? kata ur blog is the first site yg dier akn visit? lol. nuuun mana kau? :P
eh btw, yup2 i agree 1000,000 % abt org yg dah berpartner yg case bakal2 suami/isteri atau da mmg suami isteri TAK PATOT dan FOREVER tak patot mkn dgn opp sex. sbb dr situ nnt kdg blh timbul prasan yg entah merehepak tahap maksima mana ntah.
and………………………. they shld specialise, maksudnya, buat dia punya significant other tu rasa special, in the sense that, I tk akn mkn dgn pompan lain berduaan kecuali u (or mak I or adek/kakak OR nenek i) aje… u special.. jadi i akn mkn dgn u aje.. best kn? hahahaha~
So ape2 pon the case, u have to treat ur significant other secara exclusive! baruuu dia akn rasa special dan disayangi kn? mcm dia dpt layanan special and org lain tk dpt! neni neni poo poo!! yay aku special! haa mcm gitu la best. Yahoo!
Wlpn skrg da maju or watver adjective la nk sebot, syariat tetap syariat. klau org ingt syraiat, insyaAllah bnde2 psl pergaulan bebas after kawen ni sume tk jadi… dui bu dui?
ckp psl after kawen, tak semestinya only AFTER kawen kte kne jaga pergaulan. sebelom kawen kne la jaga jugakk knnn… klau u da jadi boyfie i, jgn laaa nk menggatal2 tgk2 pompan lain.. and antara bf/gf pon kne ade batas~ baru la sume org hepi~!
(:
miss u sweetest! u jgn worry, u r special to me hokay?
*smiles*
ummsofiyyah said,
November 15, 2008 at 8:58 am
hahahahah. ok kecik:)
dui dui duii. :)
Banu said,
November 15, 2008 at 9:15 am
ngantuk…….. ZzZz….
ummsofiyyah said,
November 15, 2008 at 9:16 am
HAHAHAHAAHAHAHHAHA.
Bangun banu bangun! *shakes banu kuat2*
redtide said,
November 15, 2008 at 12:11 pm
Salaam ‘alaik..
Hm, what if those weird things that you pointed out aren’t really weird at all? Maybe we all have our own weird habits.. I don’t like eating shelled prawns but I don’t mind those without em and when I know something is good for me, I will consume it even if I don’t like them intially e.g. green tea, fresh olives, plain yogurt..
Anyway, can’t really imagine having a wife who would have a lunch date or a regular phone conversation/msn as and when she likes with a guy friend. Kalo kena tangkap, lelaki tu bukan aje kena bedal.. kalo boleh ku nak tembak dengan senapang gajah!
It is a proven fact that this kind of practice often leads to adultery or for BGRs, two-timing.. and we still have people who take it lightly.. and I know of some BGR cases, even when found out, they would still want to protect the guilty party and are willing to forgive them out of “love”.. eh WAKE UP lah dey!
And of course, jealous tu biar bertempat.. being extremely possessive would be scary ler..e.g.
“Hm, I nak jumpa kawaa…”
“TAK BOLEH!”
“..kawaan lelak…”
“TAK BOLEH~”
“..skejap je members secondary school lah..”
“TAK BOLEEEEEEH!!”
can die lah like that.. (‘_’)’
ummsofiyyah said,
November 15, 2008 at 12:35 pm
Wa’alaikassalam.
reditide.
Ok. it might not seem weird to you, but it is to many whom I know. “ehh weird seh.” “tak paham aku.” “merepek nye”.
hehe.
senapang gajah sekali? wah hebat. cukup hebat.
yup yup. thats why i think sadduzzari’ah kat sini is very the crucial kan.
LOL. yes. jealous bertempat. kalau tak konfem rimas punye. hehe :)
Hairul said,
November 16, 2008 at 5:10 pm
Wahhh!! Fantabulous post lah sey.
I am like totally agree with u. Bcoz saya pun case jelez tahap agung jgk. Tp jelez bertempat. Hehe.
And i can like just copy the whole post and post it in my blog…but just have to change the gender of the post. u noe what i mean rite? Even if u donno noe, just eksyen2 noe lah kan. ;)
Just joking.
Anw, Helo kak Hannah :)
Bye.
ummsofiyyah said,
November 16, 2008 at 5:14 pm
Hahaha. thanks !:)
surrrre u can. no problemo:)
hehe. helo hairul:)
nuun said,
November 17, 2008 at 3:24 pm
eh BAIK AH EPOK2 SARDIN FAN!!
the combination is like so meant to be seyyy!
and anyway i havent been online since saturday which explains why i havent commented on hannah’s blog k _ _ _. haha :P and to hannah, aku pun jealous jugak kau rapat2 ngn _ _ _ and cz, bb, bnu sume.. mana boleh seyy, kau kan kirekn mcm ‘officially’ aku punya!
since i agree with you in this entry (though some parts mcm kes TERASA hahaha :P) i will just say I LOVE YOU ok hannah. cpt la habis exam!
ummsofiyyah said,
November 17, 2008 at 3:29 pm
why why? kau pun epok2 sardin fan eh? hehe.
kau jealous aku rapat dengan dorang? ha ni namanye jealous tak bertempat. ingat, Tuhan marah tau cemburu yang tak bertempat :p
mana ade officially kau punye. ape buktinye? pakai istishab. takde dalil tak tsabit ok. :p
haha. I LOVE YOU TOO jelot. ku pn tak sabar habis exam. Allahumma yassir wa laa tu’assir!
transient one said,
November 28, 2008 at 11:44 am
heh. i couldn’t help it, but share this little minute discovery with you.
It’s “pisang goreng”. ;)
(not goreng pisang, like how many have mixed it up with.)
Note that you will say ‘nasi goreng’ and ‘mee goreng’ instead of ‘goreng mee’? goreng mee would mean that you are frying noodles – that’s a verb, to be precise. haha. an adjective in the malay language structure, often comes after the noun.
I thought it was soooooooo interesting when i learnt this, because i’ve always used the term goreng pisang!! >.<
ummsofiyyah said,
November 28, 2008 at 2:17 pm
ahh!
ok. i shall use pisang goreng from now on, insyaAllah. Thank you, the transient one (ni mesti ahli bahasa :p). Jazaakillaah and welcome! :)